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The Memphis attorney had always talked about finding the Cliff to her Clair and having brown babies for a real-life Cosby Show family.So when she met a White accountant from Mississippi online in 2013, got engaged to him in 2014 and married him in 2015, her friends were shocked."When he proposed, they were like, "We didn't know it was that serious. " I had people question if this was what I wanted," says Meador, who serves as general counsel and vice-president at a nonprofit.My struggles as a Black woman leading a legal department of a multistate corporation have just gone away? "It was almost like they treated it as if I had switched sides, and I was no longer down for the cause because I married a White guy. It's also not fair to him."Initially a few members of Michael's family were not supportive of the relationship."He told his family, "I am marrying this woman, so either you're on board or you're going to have to watch from the sidelines,"" says Meador.Lachon, who is seeing a White man, has experienced her share of adverse reaction."I've come across a lot of men who tell me I should be ashamed and say things like, "It's not too late to come home" or "He won't know what to do with all of that." I've heard it all. But the negative comments can be more distressing when they come from family or close friends.
"I don't want these men anyway, because I'm not trying to be a part of somebody's intellectual development as a partner." Many of the sisters in her circle take the fact that some Black guys prefer women who don't look like their mothers personally."I knew we were going to have struggles as an interracial couple. He was willing to give up those relatives."Eventually some relatives came around and even danced at the wedding. They didn't attend the marriage ceremony, and Michael hasn't spoken to them in two years.Things may be improving: The Meadors celebrated their first anniversary in August, and Michael's mother has invited them to spend Christmas in Mississippi with the family."I have no doubt that I'm going to find the love that I want.Who somebody else is dating doesn't pertain to me," she says.